Recovery: setting boundaries

Here are some suggestions for boundaries that we can set as tools for achieving sobriety:-

• Don’t wear women’s clothes or cosmetics
  
• Don’t buy women’s clothes, or window-shop for them
  
• Don’t shave or remove hair from arms, legs or armpits (unless these are normal male behaviours in your culture)
  
• Don’t take female hormones
  
• Don’t have treatment for beard removal
  
• Don’t use transgender fantasies to masturbate, to suppress feelings or to avoid dealing with problems
  
• Don’t enter transgender fantasies while being sexual with a partner
  
• Don’t surf the Internet for material to stimulate transgender fantasies
  
• Don’t buy or keep transgender pornography
  
• Don’t keep catalogues of women’s clothing
  
• Don’t use a femme name, for example as an e-mail address
  
• Don’t attend transgender social gatherings en femme, or avoid them altogether